Artist: Hayden
Song: Stem
Album: Everything I Long For

from: Chloe Revere

okay, here goes. i lost my virginity on February 1st, 1997 to hayden's first record (everything i long for), this is a standout song: "stem"i was really into canadian indie rock, and it was almost as much a bonding point as sex itself with the person. if he liked the same music i liked, he was good in my books. not coincidentally, when we broke up 4 years later, he bought a rose and took off all the petals, left the petals scattered about and the cd in the player for me to listen to upon my return home. a romantic from beginning to end...him...me, and hayden.

my life has changed as i've grown older and so have the circumstances and purposes of my sexual encounters. i recently had an experience with a good friend, just for the sake of the act and a bit of fun, and we listened to a common band we love: lynyrd skynyrd. see "cry for the bad man" from the album 'gimme back my bullets'. the party tone of the album set the playful mood, the drunken lyrics matched our own states, and the aggressive nature of the southern rock set the pace for the ensuing sex. a good ol' time was had by all, not without the help of skynyrd.

also recently, i began seeing someone, on a more personal and intimate level. to ease any potential awkwardness of the first experience i played iron & wine's latest record, the shepherd's dog, which opens with "pagan angel and a borrowed car". mellow but not romantic, dark enough to not be cheesy but not dark enough to be morose...definitely opened the door for some mature, spectacular, mutually appreciated sex.