In summer 2008, I asked a select group of Sound Sex Project participants living in Montreal if they were interested in receiving a mix tape from me. I proposed that I would make each person a mix tape based on the song they had originally submitted to the project, and/or any other information they had originally submitted to the project. In total, twelve tapes were made and distributed. While I have the original tracklistings scribbled in my notebook, I have never archived them on-line. So here they are.
Tape #1, based on Profanatica’s Unto Us He Is Born
Side A
Aphex Twin – Come To Daddy
Manu le Malin – The Blood Line
Venetian Snares – Pervs
Nine Inch Nails – Happiness in Slavery
Diamanda Galás – Hex (La Diabla mix)
The Soft Pink Truth – Homosexual
Side B
Death From Above 1979 – Turn It Out
White Zombie – Super-Charger Heaven (Adults Only mix)
Meat Beat Manifesto – I Am Organic
Khan & Jon Spencer – Fishes Fuck
Tool - Stinkfist
Faith No More – Be Aggressive
KMFDM – Adios
Venetian Snares – Output
Tape #2, based on Morphine’s Test Tube Baby/Shoot ‘Em Down
Side A
Spoon – Tear Me Down
The Hidden Cameras – High Upon the Church Grounds
PJ Harvey – As Close As This
Handsome Boy Modeling School & Cat Power – I’ve Been Thinking
Gentleman Reg – It’s Not Safe
Camera Obscura – Lloyd, I’m Ready to be Heartbroken
The Ballet – Personal
The Soft Pink Truth – Kitchen
Side B
Kelly and the Kellygirls – Bloodletting
Madonna – Waiting
Khan – On The Run
Cocorosie & Antony Hegarty – Beautiful Boys
Goldfrapp – Utopia
Björk – Pluto (live)
Tape #3, based on The Cure’s The Same Deep Water as You
Side A
Lords of Acid – Lover
Khan & Françoise Cactus – Les Gros Nichons
Robyn – Cobrastyle
Peaches – Downtown (Simian Mobile Disco remix)
Underworld – Push Upstairs
Tricky – Overcome
Björk- Pleasure is all Mine
Hanin Elias – Cat People
Side B
George Michael – Freedom 90 (MTV UnPlugged)
Missy Elliot – Sock It 2 Me
Leslie Hall – Blame the Booty
Mary J. Blige – Work That
LeTigre – I’m So Excited
Cazwell – Watch My Mouth
Sade – Haunt Me
Tape #4, based on Hayden’s Stem
Side A
Spacehog – In the Meantime
Patti Smith – Summer Cannibals
Fleetwood Mac – Monday Morning
Blind Melon – Out On the Tiles
T. Rex – Calling All Destroyers
Hole – Gold Dust Woman
Beck – Deborah
Side B
Iron and Wine – Woman King
Neko Case – Star Witness
Chris Garneau – Between the Bars
This Mortal Coil – Kangaroo
Jay Brannan – Soda Shop
Low – Laser Beam
Earlimart – Gonna Break Into Your Heart
Max Avery Lichtenstein – Tarnation
Tape #5, based on The Fugees’ Ready or Not
Side A
Lauryn Hill – Ex-Factor
Björk – I Miss You (Dobie Pt. 2 mix)
Kelly & The Kellygirls – Desperado (Shroom’s Spanish Fly mix)
Eurythmics –The Last Time (live)
Me’Shell Ndegéocello – Soul Searchin’ (I Wanna Know if it’s Mine)
Sneaker Pimps – 6 Underground (Nellee Hooper edit)
Side B
Peaches – Tent in Your Pants
Kellis – Milshake
Missy Elliot – I’m Really Hot
Salt’n’Pepa – Shoop
Tweet – Oops
Kym Mazelle – Young Hearts Run Free
Pink, with Peaches – Oh My God
Sophie B. Hawkins – Damn, I Wish I was Your Lover
Tape #6, based on Iron & Wine’s Sodom, South Georgia
Side A
Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds – Into My Arms
PJ Harvey – The Desperate Kingdom of Love
The Hidden Cameras – A Miracle
Death Cab for Cutie – All is Full of Love
Tegan and Sara – Call It Off
Hawksley Workman – Don’t Be Crushed
Elliot Smith – Independence Day
The Black Heart Procession – Not Just Words
Elsiane – Morphing
Side B
Iron and Wine – My Lady’s House
Chris Garneau – Baby’s Romance
Earlimart – The Movies
Björk – Cocoon
Eva Cassidy – Time After Time
Low – Closer
Diamanda Galás – Interlude (Time)
Tape #7, based on Led Zeppelin’s Ramble On
Side A
4 Non Blondes – Misty Mountain Hop
Hawksley Workman – Striptease
PJ Harvey – Harder
Missy Elliot – Work It
Death From Above 1979 – Sexy Results
Spoon – I Turn My Camera On
Patti Smith – Glitter in their Eyes
Juliette Lewis – Hardly Wait
Side B
Erykah Badu – Penitentiary Philosophy
Frank Black – Sugar Daddy
Elastica – Car Song
Diamanda Galás and John Paul Jones – You’re Mine
Peaches – Two Guys (For Every Girl)
Edwyn Collins – A Girl Like You
Rasputina – Rock’n’Roll
Tape #8, based on Ratatat’s Swisha
Side A
The Album Leaf – Window
Sigur Ros – Vaka (live acoustic)
Portishead – Mystereons
Björk – Come To Me
Angelo Badalamenti – Mulholland Dr. Love Theme
This Mortal Coil – Song to the Siren
Nine Inch Nails – A Warm Place
Side B
Ratatat – Seventeen Years
PJ Harvey – The Letter
Earlimart – Never Mind the Phone Calls
Death Cab for Cutie – Transatlanticism
The Album Leaf – Moss Mountain Town
Antony and the Johnsons – Frankenstein
Tape #9, based on Stereolab’s Changer
Side A
Grace Jones – Nightclubbing
Khan & Françoise Cactus – Fantômes
Goldfrapp – UK Girls (Get Physical)
Junior Boys – Count Souvenirs
Timi Yuro – What’s A Matter Baby
The Notwist – Pick Up The Phone
Imperial Teen – Freaks
Antonio Carlos Jobim – Insensatez
Side B
Stereo Total – Holiday Inn
Recoil, with Samantha Coerbell – New York Nights
Portishead – Glory Box (Scorn mix)
Petula Clark – Downtown
Death Cab for Cutie
Sook-Yin Lee – Lunar Lament
Tape #10, based on VNV Nation’s Solitary (Covenant’s Deathstar Disco remix)
Side A
Nine Inch Nails – The Perfect Drug (remix)
Meat Beat Manifesto – Radio Babylon (Luke Vibert mix)
The Chemical Brothers, with Richard Ashcroft – The Test
Tool – The Grudge
Side B
Khan – Jet Lounge Blues
Grace Jones – Ring of Fire
Peaches – Diddle My Skittle
Madonna – Erotica (Kenlou B-Boy mix)
My Brightest Diamond – Golden Star (Alias remix)
Pale 3 and Louise Rhodes – Escape
Elsiane – Vaporous
Tape #11, based on Grace Jones' Slave to the Rhythm
Side A
Portishead - Glory Box (Scorn mix)
Tricky - Overcome
Björk - Hunter (Skothùs mix)
The Knife - We Share Our Mother's Health
Goldfrapp - Strict Machine
Robyn - Cobrastyle
M.I.A - XR2
Nine Inch Nails - The Perfect Drug (Plug mix)
Side B
Tool - Disposition
Matmos - Electric Things #5
Hercules and the Love Affair - Easy
Khan - On The Run
Peaches - Diddle My Skittle
Portishead - Machine Gun
Underworld - Push Upstairs
Aphex Twin - At The Heart of it All
PJ Harvey - The Slow Drug
Tape # 12, based on Timbaland's Scream (featuring Keri Hilson & Nicole Scherzinger)
Side A
Beck - Diamond Dogs
Tweet - Oops
Missy Elliot - I'm Hot
Peaches - Downtown
Hercules and the Love Affair - Blind
The Soft Pink Truth - Out of Step
Death From Above 1979 - Sexy Results
Side B
Madonna - Bedtime Story
Khan & Diamanda Galás - Aman
Nine Inch Nails - The Beginning of the End (Ladytron remix)
Lords of Acid - Marijuana in your Brain
Björk - I Miss You (Dobie Pt 2 mix)
Kelly and the Kellygirls - Desperado (Shroom's Spanish Fly mix)
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Friday, August 15, 2008
Guilty Pleasure
One of the subjects I've had to write about in this Sound Sex Project thesis is shame. Sexual shame, bodily shame, but of greatest note, musical shame. I have had to wonder, would anyone admit to liking really 'bad' music, let alone admit to having sex to it? Is there a line between ‘bad’ music that is acceptable due to its camp value or ironic hipster credit, versus songs that are pure abominations? Are people unwilling to share their questionable musical tastes? Do people have sex to their sonic guilty pleasures? Would someone be self-aware, or self-conscious enough to get up from a physical engagement and turn the speakers off if an embarrassing song came on?
While working on this project, I remembered one of my earliest sexual experiences colliding with my musical tastes. I was having a casual fling with a guy I had met online. We were in his apartment, engaging in some sexual activity, and his computer’s music player was on random. Suddenly, Chantal Kreviazuk’s cover of John Denver’s Leaving on a Jet Plane came on. I paused our fun and ran to the computer to change the song, explaining that I found it impossible to fool around to what I considered a sappy cover song that had appeared in a Bruce Willis/Ben Affleck blockbuster.
I've just finished reading Carl Wilson's "Let's Talk About Love: A Journey to the End of Taste," in which he tackles with perhaps the most uncool music we know of, that of Celine Dion. But can music be inherently 'bad'? If every person, child, music critic, and musician you know says that Celine is the worst of the worst, how did she sell out shows in Las Vegas for four years in a row? Perhaps this seems like a facile question, but Wilson's book is incredibly well-written, self-reflexive, interesting and thought-provoking. Are Celine's epic love songs the equivalent of the metal power ballad, but on estrogen? Because her identity as Quebecois is not recognized in the States, is she an invisible 'other'? What is so wrong with liking songs about love that aren't all tears, nihilism, emo, and end of the world? Do our musical preferences have more to do with class structures, rather than sonic palates? The answer may very well be at the end of taste, and as such, I highly recommend Wilson's book, which is part of the 33 1/3 series.
One might say that even Celine escapes the possibility of being liked in an ironic/and/or/hip way. Nor does she have the lengthy shelf-life to permit her to return to the scene with kitsch value. While Neil Diamond can make his way into hipster culture, Dion cannot. But who is monitoring the tastes of the hipster elite? I have just the answer for your.
http://thetragicallyunhip.wordpress.com
If you've ever been uncool as a Celine fan, are interested in purchasing hair-dye for pubic hair, or want to know more about the art of naming furniture at Ikea, this site based out of Montreal is ripe with musings, self-deprecating humour, failed romantic endeavours, and the never-ending curse of being uncool.
While working on this project, I remembered one of my earliest sexual experiences colliding with my musical tastes. I was having a casual fling with a guy I had met online. We were in his apartment, engaging in some sexual activity, and his computer’s music player was on random. Suddenly, Chantal Kreviazuk’s cover of John Denver’s Leaving on a Jet Plane came on. I paused our fun and ran to the computer to change the song, explaining that I found it impossible to fool around to what I considered a sappy cover song that had appeared in a Bruce Willis/Ben Affleck blockbuster.
I've just finished reading Carl Wilson's "Let's Talk About Love: A Journey to the End of Taste," in which he tackles with perhaps the most uncool music we know of, that of Celine Dion. But can music be inherently 'bad'? If every person, child, music critic, and musician you know says that Celine is the worst of the worst, how did she sell out shows in Las Vegas for four years in a row? Perhaps this seems like a facile question, but Wilson's book is incredibly well-written, self-reflexive, interesting and thought-provoking. Are Celine's epic love songs the equivalent of the metal power ballad, but on estrogen? Because her identity as Quebecois is not recognized in the States, is she an invisible 'other'? What is so wrong with liking songs about love that aren't all tears, nihilism, emo, and end of the world? Do our musical preferences have more to do with class structures, rather than sonic palates? The answer may very well be at the end of taste, and as such, I highly recommend Wilson's book, which is part of the 33 1/3 series.
One might say that even Celine escapes the possibility of being liked in an ironic/and/or/hip way. Nor does she have the lengthy shelf-life to permit her to return to the scene with kitsch value. While Neil Diamond can make his way into hipster culture, Dion cannot. But who is monitoring the tastes of the hipster elite? I have just the answer for your.
http://thetragicallyunhip.wordpress.com
If you've ever been uncool as a Celine fan, are interested in purchasing hair-dye for pubic hair, or want to know more about the art of naming furniture at Ikea, this site based out of Montreal is ripe with musings, self-deprecating humour, failed romantic endeavours, and the never-ending curse of being uncool.
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Artist: Puff Daddy and Jimmy Page
Song: Come With Me
Album: Godzilla soundtrack
from: anonymous
When living in New York City, I was faced with the challenge of sex partners unwilling to come home with me because I lived in the Bronx, a far-away, often dangerous neighbourhood. One night after going to my favourite club, I succeeded in luring someone the twenty subway stops home. He had a vague sense of humour, and a dark, inquisitive mind. He made it clear that he was game for whatever I had in mind.
We ended up arguing the whole ride home on the subway, after I told him I had said "congrats" to Ed Norton at the premiere of American History X that week. He got angry with me, saying that maybe Norton didn't want to be harrassed by fans like that. Our spat drove sexual tension high in me, and probably in him, too.
When we got to my place and undressed, I put on Come With Me (a re-tooled version of Led Zeppelin's Kashmir), a song that I had been thinking about having sex to, because of its intensity. I pressed play, and we got animalistic on each other. I quickly realized that for him, sex was about trust games involving eye contact. I let myself become sinister in his mind. It got pretty heavy in my windowless room, and he got this terrified look on his face.
"Stop," he said.
I pressed stop.
We went to sleep.
Song: Come With Me
Album: Godzilla soundtrack
from: anonymous
When living in New York City, I was faced with the challenge of sex partners unwilling to come home with me because I lived in the Bronx, a far-away, often dangerous neighbourhood. One night after going to my favourite club, I succeeded in luring someone the twenty subway stops home. He had a vague sense of humour, and a dark, inquisitive mind. He made it clear that he was game for whatever I had in mind.
We ended up arguing the whole ride home on the subway, after I told him I had said "congrats" to Ed Norton at the premiere of American History X that week. He got angry with me, saying that maybe Norton didn't want to be harrassed by fans like that. Our spat drove sexual tension high in me, and probably in him, too.
When we got to my place and undressed, I put on Come With Me (a re-tooled version of Led Zeppelin's Kashmir), a song that I had been thinking about having sex to, because of its intensity. I pressed play, and we got animalistic on each other. I quickly realized that for him, sex was about trust games involving eye contact. I let myself become sinister in his mind. It got pretty heavy in my windowless room, and he got this terrified look on his face.
"Stop," he said.
I pressed stop.
We went to sleep.
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Monday, May 26, 2008
Monday, May 12, 2008
Changes to the Sound Sex Project
Hello
Up until now, the Sound Sex Project has only featured content involving a person's song choice, the song's artist, and any thoughts the participant was willing to share. While this has offered up a whole wealth of information about the links between sound, music, and sexuality, this methodology has been somewhat limiting.
After much discussion with my thesis advisor, and after receiving great feedback about the project at the conference for the International Association for the Study of Popular Music at Brock University, I have decided that it is finally time to change up how this blog will function.
First of all, when I began this project, I listed only one song per participant, even if they had more music to share. Therefore, I will post all extra songs.
Second of all, some participants have brought up the fact that they do not wish to divulge a particular song title, as that would put an end to their anonimity. Likewise, some people have written about soundtracks that are not necessarily in traditional song format. From now on, all types of stories or thoughts on sound and sexuality are welcome.
So, if you have already submitted something to the Sound Sex Project, please feel free to send in more stories/songs/sounds. If you have yet to participate in the project, new entires are always welcome. And please share the blog/spread the word whenever you can.
Thanks as always,
Mark Ambrose Harris
Up until now, the Sound Sex Project has only featured content involving a person's song choice, the song's artist, and any thoughts the participant was willing to share. While this has offered up a whole wealth of information about the links between sound, music, and sexuality, this methodology has been somewhat limiting.
After much discussion with my thesis advisor, and after receiving great feedback about the project at the conference for the International Association for the Study of Popular Music at Brock University, I have decided that it is finally time to change up how this blog will function.
First of all, when I began this project, I listed only one song per participant, even if they had more music to share. Therefore, I will post all extra songs.
Second of all, some participants have brought up the fact that they do not wish to divulge a particular song title, as that would put an end to their anonimity. Likewise, some people have written about soundtracks that are not necessarily in traditional song format. From now on, all types of stories or thoughts on sound and sexuality are welcome.
So, if you have already submitted something to the Sound Sex Project, please feel free to send in more stories/songs/sounds. If you have yet to participate in the project, new entires are always welcome. And please share the blog/spread the word whenever you can.
Thanks as always,
Mark Ambrose Harris
I have been involved with amusician for the last few months and what is striking is that unlike earlier situations, we never use music during sex (although I listen to his music sometimes when having fun alone). Instead, when together, we are both much more vocal than I have experienced before. This reminds me of how, with porn soundtracks, it is often the live vocalizations (not looped but synched) that turn me on the most, and their musicality in that context, the melodies, timbres & rhythms of moaning. A different kind of extended vocal practice.
from: anonymous
from: anonymous
Star Trek: The Next Generation
I'm not sure this will help since it's not technically a song, but this is one of my strongest sex memories. I once had sex while watching Star Trek: The Next Generation. It was very bad sex and ended in tears. Though I still love Star Trek, that particular eppisode always brings back bad memories.
from: anonymous
from: anonymous
Sunday, March 30, 2008
Artist: Hayden
Song: Stem
Album: Everything I Long For
from: Chloe Revere
okay, here goes. i lost my virginity on February 1st, 1997 to hayden's first record (everything i long for), this is a standout song: "stem"i was really into canadian indie rock, and it was almost as much a bonding point as sex itself with the person. if he liked the same music i liked, he was good in my books. not coincidentally, when we broke up 4 years later, he bought a rose and took off all the petals, left the petals scattered about and the cd in the player for me to listen to upon my return home. a romantic from beginning to end...him...me, and hayden.
my life has changed as i've grown older and so have the circumstances and purposes of my sexual encounters. i recently had an experience with a good friend, just for the sake of the act and a bit of fun, and we listened to a common band we love: lynyrd skynyrd. see "cry for the bad man" from the album 'gimme back my bullets'. the party tone of the album set the playful mood, the drunken lyrics matched our own states, and the aggressive nature of the southern rock set the pace for the ensuing sex. a good ol' time was had by all, not without the help of skynyrd.
also recently, i began seeing someone, on a more personal and intimate level. to ease any potential awkwardness of the first experience i played iron & wine's latest record, the shepherd's dog, which opens with "pagan angel and a borrowed car". mellow but not romantic, dark enough to not be cheesy but not dark enough to be morose...definitely opened the door for some mature, spectacular, mutually appreciated sex.
Song: Stem
Album: Everything I Long For
from: Chloe Revere
okay, here goes. i lost my virginity on February 1st, 1997 to hayden's first record (everything i long for), this is a standout song: "stem"i was really into canadian indie rock, and it was almost as much a bonding point as sex itself with the person. if he liked the same music i liked, he was good in my books. not coincidentally, when we broke up 4 years later, he bought a rose and took off all the petals, left the petals scattered about and the cd in the player for me to listen to upon my return home. a romantic from beginning to end...him...me, and hayden.
my life has changed as i've grown older and so have the circumstances and purposes of my sexual encounters. i recently had an experience with a good friend, just for the sake of the act and a bit of fun, and we listened to a common band we love: lynyrd skynyrd. see "cry for the bad man" from the album 'gimme back my bullets'. the party tone of the album set the playful mood, the drunken lyrics matched our own states, and the aggressive nature of the southern rock set the pace for the ensuing sex. a good ol' time was had by all, not without the help of skynyrd.
also recently, i began seeing someone, on a more personal and intimate level. to ease any potential awkwardness of the first experience i played iron & wine's latest record, the shepherd's dog, which opens with "pagan angel and a borrowed car". mellow but not romantic, dark enough to not be cheesy but not dark enough to be morose...definitely opened the door for some mature, spectacular, mutually appreciated sex.
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Artist: Patrick Watson
Song: Daydreamer
Album: Close to Paradise
from: Laura
A sexual encounter for me makes it's own music.
I like background music while engaging in sex or better making love but usually I personally am more imbued in the sex than what's going on around. I even wonder if the connection is good if you are paying more attention to the music than to the other person.
That being said, as Selin pointed out, background music does retain a lot of significance after the act.
If anything hearing the songs I lived intensely to will unconsciously revive my sexual appetite and maybe even bliss.
So if I had to choose one I would say Patrick Watson's Daydreamer.
Song: Daydreamer
Album: Close to Paradise
from: Laura
A sexual encounter for me makes it's own music.
I like background music while engaging in sex or better making love but usually I personally am more imbued in the sex than what's going on around. I even wonder if the connection is good if you are paying more attention to the music than to the other person.
That being said, as Selin pointed out, background music does retain a lot of significance after the act.
If anything hearing the songs I lived intensely to will unconsciously revive my sexual appetite and maybe even bliss.
So if I had to choose one I would say Patrick Watson's Daydreamer.
Thursday, January 17, 2008
Artist: Ratatat
Song: Swisha
Album: Classics
From: Selin
A 26 year old mainly straight pretty lady, who made love to this ratatat album, starting with swisha, the first time her and her long distance lover met after months of corresponding. it was the first bout of music that he had introduced me to via email and i often listened to it while i missed him, alone in my big city. coincidentally (perhaps not?), it was playing when we finally met, got past the talking and into the most electric sex i'd ever had.
every time this album plays, i get waves of nostalgia and an inherent sensation of feeling loved. whereas our relationship no longer exists, the tangent feeling of what was really does remain in musical association. it's such a nice memory to have.
Song: Swisha
Album: Classics
From: Selin
A 26 year old mainly straight pretty lady, who made love to this ratatat album, starting with swisha, the first time her and her long distance lover met after months of corresponding. it was the first bout of music that he had introduced me to via email and i often listened to it while i missed him, alone in my big city. coincidentally (perhaps not?), it was playing when we finally met, got past the talking and into the most electric sex i'd ever had.
every time this album plays, i get waves of nostalgia and an inherent sensation of feeling loved. whereas our relationship no longer exists, the tangent feeling of what was really does remain in musical association. it's such a nice memory to have.
Monday, December 3, 2007
Artist: Iron & Wine
Song: Sodom, South Georgia
Album: Our Endless Numbered Days
From: anonymous
I'm an eighteen-year-old American girl who identifies as bisexual.
The guy in question has been a friend of mine since elementary school, and the night that this particular encounter happened was the Fourth of July. He'd just broken up with his first girlfriend, so I invited him to spend the Fourth with my family because I didn't want him moping around. He ended up sleeping over because it got so late; I put music on my iPod speakers and we started talking. Music is really important to both of us, and the guy holds some musical significance in my life, as he introduced me to a lot of the indie music that I love. I changed it to the Iron & Wine album Our Endless Numbered Days because we both love Iron & Wine.
I can't pinpoint when it happened, but suddenly we're making out on my bed to Iron & Wine. There's so much there on that bed - we've been friends for so long, he's only kissed one girl as opposed to my admittedly extensive experience, we both have attractiveness/insecurity issues ... but somehow Iron & Wine melts it all away. It definitely tinged the encounter ... that boy touched me like I was made of glass, fingers trailing the valley between my hips and ribs with something like wonder.
Anyway, we made out for ages, certainly the entire album. I only chose that song because it's both of our favorite.
Song: Sodom, South Georgia
Album: Our Endless Numbered Days
From: anonymous
I'm an eighteen-year-old American girl who identifies as bisexual.
The guy in question has been a friend of mine since elementary school, and the night that this particular encounter happened was the Fourth of July. He'd just broken up with his first girlfriend, so I invited him to spend the Fourth with my family because I didn't want him moping around. He ended up sleeping over because it got so late; I put music on my iPod speakers and we started talking. Music is really important to both of us, and the guy holds some musical significance in my life, as he introduced me to a lot of the indie music that I love. I changed it to the Iron & Wine album Our Endless Numbered Days because we both love Iron & Wine.
I can't pinpoint when it happened, but suddenly we're making out on my bed to Iron & Wine. There's so much there on that bed - we've been friends for so long, he's only kissed one girl as opposed to my admittedly extensive experience, we both have attractiveness/insecurity issues ... but somehow Iron & Wine melts it all away. It definitely tinged the encounter ... that boy touched me like I was made of glass, fingers trailing the valley between my hips and ribs with something like wonder.
Anyway, we made out for ages, certainly the entire album. I only chose that song because it's both of our favorite.
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Artist: Leonard Cohen
Song: The Future
Album: Blossoms of Heaven, Ashes of Hell bootleg
From: anonymous
This was not so much a specifically selected song as much as a song that came up on my iTunes after my partner and I had been fucking for a while. But when it did begin, we both looked at each other and said, "Wow, this is song is really perfect for what we're doing." We had been listening to Leonard Cohen songs for a while, many of which were very sexy, but somehow this one was the one we took notice of. I had a certain feeling of "look at me fucking to this ideal Leonard Cohen song" after noticing it, but I think that might have just made things better. In any case, we had UNBELIEVABLY FUCKING GREAT SEX, and maybe the sensation of listening to the perfect song for the moment helped.
I'm a straight twenty-year-old girl; my partner was a straight thirty-eight-year-old guy. This was just one out of many times that we had great sex with each other. Leonard Cohen is now, in my mind, the ideal music for hot older/younger sex.
Song: The Future
Album: Blossoms of Heaven, Ashes of Hell bootleg
From: anonymous
This was not so much a specifically selected song as much as a song that came up on my iTunes after my partner and I had been fucking for a while. But when it did begin, we both looked at each other and said, "Wow, this is song is really perfect for what we're doing." We had been listening to Leonard Cohen songs for a while, many of which were very sexy, but somehow this one was the one we took notice of. I had a certain feeling of "look at me fucking to this ideal Leonard Cohen song" after noticing it, but I think that might have just made things better. In any case, we had UNBELIEVABLY FUCKING GREAT SEX, and maybe the sensation of listening to the perfect song for the moment helped.
I'm a straight twenty-year-old girl; my partner was a straight thirty-eight-year-old guy. This was just one out of many times that we had great sex with each other. Leonard Cohen is now, in my mind, the ideal music for hot older/younger sex.
Artist: A Tribe Called Quest
Song: Oh My God
Album: Midnight Marauders
From: anonymous
Bio: anonymous (please) straight white dude
I'd been in a relationship for several years that just didn't have alot of hot sparks--the sex was predictable, orchestrated and vanilla.Generally I was playing along with what I thought she foundromantic--dim lights, candles and gentle music like ben harper or norajones. The first sexual encounter I had after breaking up with herwas so hot to me in part because it just didn't need any pretense forus to be on each other. The lights were on and the album "midnightmarauders" by "a tribe called quest" was playing. One song that stands out in my memory is "oh my god."
Song: Oh My God
Album: Midnight Marauders
From: anonymous
Bio: anonymous (please) straight white dude
I'd been in a relationship for several years that just didn't have alot of hot sparks--the sex was predictable, orchestrated and vanilla.Generally I was playing along with what I thought she foundromantic--dim lights, candles and gentle music like ben harper or norajones. The first sexual encounter I had after breaking up with herwas so hot to me in part because it just didn't need any pretense forus to be on each other. The lights were on and the album "midnightmarauders" by "a tribe called quest" was playing. One song that stands out in my memory is "oh my god."
Artist: The Cure
Song:The Same Deep Water As You
Album: Disintegration
From: Skye Maule-O'Brien
I'm a white woman who identifies as straight....
Um so I have old school sex and more contemporary ones....
The older one actually comes from a really important album by the Cure- Disintegration. I have the CD and still listen to it - I havetransferred the CD onto a mini-disc with about 5 other albums thatsort of conjure up the same feelings - but not all the same way - some are a lot more positive than others.I would have to say "The Same Deep Water as You", from the albumDisintegration is probably the most special, but other important onesare the songs "Disintegration", "Plainsong" and "Untitled" on the samealbum. To me the songs are about sexual power, loss, pain, and my ownidentity as I was maturing into a sexually active young women. At thetime I was dealing with a lot of sadness, intense feelings andemotions that at the time I did not know how to deal with. When Ilisten to this album now it is more about empowerment through myexperiences and learning about myself and how to learn to love mydeeper darker sides that maybe not everyone shares. The references todeath, rebirth and water all really speak to me personally. Buthonestly this is a side of me almost NO ONE ever gets to hear about -it's definitely the serious intimate side of my sexuality, but it'snot the only side of me.
The more contemporary CD that I like and is also on the mini-disc Icreated a couple years back. It is Lovage, by Dan the Automator, MikePatton, Jennifer Charles, Kid Koala. The album is called 'Music toMake Love to Your Old Lady By" ... and he isn't joking around! Thereare 2 songs on that album that really touched me in my heart and clitoris! hahah! no but serious they are very sexy songs. "Sex (I'ma)" is probably my favorite for sexiness and hotness and then "AngerManagement" is the other good one. These are much more positive in myown sexual memory, compared to my younger more troubled Cure years.Also it speaks more about the person I am now I guess - but stillholds a special, sexy, and emotional place in my heart.
I have a lot of other less serious songs and music that I associatewith sex, sexuality and empowerment - like some George Michael, SaltN' Peppa, N.E.R.D. Sade, Depeche Mode, Air, Felix da house cat, Lordsof Acid, My Life with the Thrill Kill Kult (actually very important inthe earlier years too), but I guess because sex is an intimate encounter and also reaches deep into parts of my head that I find hardto articulate I felt it was more important for me to share songs thatmove me emotionally as well as sexually. The Cure is probably less connected to SEX than Lovage is, but both are connected to my sexuality.
Song:The Same Deep Water As You
Album: Disintegration
From: Skye Maule-O'Brien
I'm a white woman who identifies as straight....
Um so I have old school sex and more contemporary ones....
The older one actually comes from a really important album by the Cure- Disintegration. I have the CD and still listen to it - I havetransferred the CD onto a mini-disc with about 5 other albums thatsort of conjure up the same feelings - but not all the same way - some are a lot more positive than others.I would have to say "The Same Deep Water as You", from the albumDisintegration is probably the most special, but other important onesare the songs "Disintegration", "Plainsong" and "Untitled" on the samealbum. To me the songs are about sexual power, loss, pain, and my ownidentity as I was maturing into a sexually active young women. At thetime I was dealing with a lot of sadness, intense feelings andemotions that at the time I did not know how to deal with. When Ilisten to this album now it is more about empowerment through myexperiences and learning about myself and how to learn to love mydeeper darker sides that maybe not everyone shares. The references todeath, rebirth and water all really speak to me personally. Buthonestly this is a side of me almost NO ONE ever gets to hear about -it's definitely the serious intimate side of my sexuality, but it'snot the only side of me.
The more contemporary CD that I like and is also on the mini-disc Icreated a couple years back. It is Lovage, by Dan the Automator, MikePatton, Jennifer Charles, Kid Koala. The album is called 'Music toMake Love to Your Old Lady By" ... and he isn't joking around! Thereare 2 songs on that album that really touched me in my heart and clitoris! hahah! no but serious they are very sexy songs. "Sex (I'ma)" is probably my favorite for sexiness and hotness and then "AngerManagement" is the other good one. These are much more positive in myown sexual memory, compared to my younger more troubled Cure years.Also it speaks more about the person I am now I guess - but stillholds a special, sexy, and emotional place in my heart.
I have a lot of other less serious songs and music that I associatewith sex, sexuality and empowerment - like some George Michael, SaltN' Peppa, N.E.R.D. Sade, Depeche Mode, Air, Felix da house cat, Lordsof Acid, My Life with the Thrill Kill Kult (actually very important inthe earlier years too), but I guess because sex is an intimate encounter and also reaches deep into parts of my head that I find hardto articulate I felt it was more important for me to share songs thatmove me emotionally as well as sexually. The Cure is probably less connected to SEX than Lovage is, but both are connected to my sexuality.
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Friday, November 23, 2007
Artist: Led Zeppelin
Song: Ramble On
Album: Led Zeppelin II
From: anonymous
Biographical Info:
I'm a 26 year old Caucasian female. I like boys.
My sexy sound story:
When I was younger I had quite a few fling-type relationships with men. I had a number of shitty experiences being that I was very naive and gullable as a young woman. Afterwards I refused to let my guard down or let myself be vulnerable to anyone, so I never really spent much time with one particular man. When I was about 20 or 21 I met a guy at a party and we started dating very casually. We had sex the night I met him, and I assumed it would end there, so I was surprised when he called me. He was older than me and seemed very kind and grounded, which was unlike the sorry collection of douchebags I had dated previous to him. The first time I went to his apartment, we had a few drinks and listened to music through his satellite TV. We have very similar tastes in music - both of us were into 70s rock like Zeppelin and Pink Floyd - so we quizzed each other on how long it took each of us to guess the song after the first few bars. After some quizzing and a heated discussion about the Eagles, we ended up in his bedroom. The TV was still blasting music - we were too distracted to turn if off - and I can remember hearing one of my favourite Led Zeppelin songs, "Ramble On," starting to play as we were having sex. The song is loud and fast and always makes me want to move, so I focused on it as we were having sex and it made everything feel even better. I remember wanting to yell "fuck yeah!" (but I didn't, because that would have indeed been very awkward, for both of us) - I felt completely happy and confident in that moment and I couldn't imagine a better song to have played right then. Even though I stopped dating the guy shortly after that, there were no hard feelings between us, and I look back on that moment as one in which I felt totally empowere, in control, and satisfied (and, interestingly, I have no recollection of the sex itself, but only of the song and how I felt at the time).
Other info:
The song, it seems, is what makes that sexual encounter memorable for me (without it, I don't think I'd ever have thought of that encounter otherwise). Led Zeppelin, for me, is really empowering and makes me think of independence and strength (it's loud, it's hard, it's full of intent), so in that moment I felt totally in control of the situation, like I was enjoying myself and he (as terrible as it sounds) was simply there to provide that for me. There was no way he was going to take advantage of me, and no way that I would let down my steely guard. That sounds kind of tragic, I know, but I sort of felt like "I'm getting what I want from you" and, depsite the fact that he was a very nice guy, that made me feel powerful -in an 'i'm-samantha-jones-and-i'm-fucking-like-a-man' type of way .
Song: Ramble On
Album: Led Zeppelin II
From: anonymous
Biographical Info:
I'm a 26 year old Caucasian female. I like boys.
My sexy sound story:
When I was younger I had quite a few fling-type relationships with men. I had a number of shitty experiences being that I was very naive and gullable as a young woman. Afterwards I refused to let my guard down or let myself be vulnerable to anyone, so I never really spent much time with one particular man. When I was about 20 or 21 I met a guy at a party and we started dating very casually. We had sex the night I met him, and I assumed it would end there, so I was surprised when he called me. He was older than me and seemed very kind and grounded, which was unlike the sorry collection of douchebags I had dated previous to him. The first time I went to his apartment, we had a few drinks and listened to music through his satellite TV. We have very similar tastes in music - both of us were into 70s rock like Zeppelin and Pink Floyd - so we quizzed each other on how long it took each of us to guess the song after the first few bars. After some quizzing and a heated discussion about the Eagles, we ended up in his bedroom. The TV was still blasting music - we were too distracted to turn if off - and I can remember hearing one of my favourite Led Zeppelin songs, "Ramble On," starting to play as we were having sex. The song is loud and fast and always makes me want to move, so I focused on it as we were having sex and it made everything feel even better. I remember wanting to yell "fuck yeah!" (but I didn't, because that would have indeed been very awkward, for both of us) - I felt completely happy and confident in that moment and I couldn't imagine a better song to have played right then. Even though I stopped dating the guy shortly after that, there were no hard feelings between us, and I look back on that moment as one in which I felt totally empowere, in control, and satisfied (and, interestingly, I have no recollection of the sex itself, but only of the song and how I felt at the time).
Other info:
The song, it seems, is what makes that sexual encounter memorable for me (without it, I don't think I'd ever have thought of that encounter otherwise). Led Zeppelin, for me, is really empowering and makes me think of independence and strength (it's loud, it's hard, it's full of intent), so in that moment I felt totally in control of the situation, like I was enjoying myself and he (as terrible as it sounds) was simply there to provide that for me. There was no way he was going to take advantage of me, and no way that I would let down my steely guard. That sounds kind of tragic, I know, but I sort of felt like "I'm getting what I want from you" and, depsite the fact that he was a very nice guy, that made me feel powerful -in an 'i'm-samantha-jones-and-i'm-fucking-like-a-man' type of way .
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Artist: Morphine
Song: Test Tube Baby/Shoot 'Em Down
Album: Good
From: Greg
Male 23 East Coast Canada Greg
The song is rather rambunctious, and we did have sex for the whole duration of the album, (Good) which is, in it's entirety; amazing. But this particular person was not very into having sex with music, he said it made him feel like he was in a movie and this creeped him out, so the sex was not as great as it could have been or was when we weren't listening to music and he was more comfortable. But I still always want to roll around on the floor like a cat in heat when I listen to this album.
Type of player: CD player, CD.
Song: Test Tube Baby/Shoot 'Em Down
Album: Good
From: Greg
Male 23 East Coast Canada Greg
The song is rather rambunctious, and we did have sex for the whole duration of the album, (Good) which is, in it's entirety; amazing. But this particular person was not very into having sex with music, he said it made him feel like he was in a movie and this creeped him out, so the sex was not as great as it could have been or was when we weren't listening to music and he was more comfortable. But I still always want to roll around on the floor like a cat in heat when I listen to this album.
Type of player: CD player, CD.
Artist: Fischerspooner
Song: Emerge
Album: #1
From: Peter
In the summer of 2004, I spent a fun and rather drunken night out with one of my closest friends, who just happens to share both my sex and my sexual orientation. We decided to stop by his apartment for post-night out cigarettes and chatter. I had made him a mix CD in the months prior for reasons I dont remember, and he decided to put it on in what I remember as a way to show me he actually listened to it even though I didn't think he did. Somewhere in the middle of the dozen or so tracked CD, Fischerspooner's Emerge came on. Its a really sexy song.. fast but sensual beats, very suggestive if not totally explicit lyrics.. Anyway, I don't know how much of it was the song or how much of it was the general sexual tension that had been a longstanding fragment of our until then platonic relationship, but "Emerge", about fifteen seconds in, led us to do the same. The fact that his best friend at the time was also my boyfriend is a separate (though important) part of the story. Whenever I hear that song I can smell the musky mix of cologne and sweat that he smelled like that night. It was an isolated event, and didn't cause any damage, but if that song ever comes on I can only think of him, and I'd like to think he does the same.
Song: Emerge
Album: #1
From: Peter
In the summer of 2004, I spent a fun and rather drunken night out with one of my closest friends, who just happens to share both my sex and my sexual orientation. We decided to stop by his apartment for post-night out cigarettes and chatter. I had made him a mix CD in the months prior for reasons I dont remember, and he decided to put it on in what I remember as a way to show me he actually listened to it even though I didn't think he did. Somewhere in the middle of the dozen or so tracked CD, Fischerspooner's Emerge came on. Its a really sexy song.. fast but sensual beats, very suggestive if not totally explicit lyrics.. Anyway, I don't know how much of it was the song or how much of it was the general sexual tension that had been a longstanding fragment of our until then platonic relationship, but "Emerge", about fifteen seconds in, led us to do the same. The fact that his best friend at the time was also my boyfriend is a separate (though important) part of the story. Whenever I hear that song I can smell the musky mix of cologne and sweat that he smelled like that night. It was an isolated event, and didn't cause any damage, but if that song ever comes on I can only think of him, and I'd like to think he does the same.
Artist: Bach
Song: Saint Matthew Passion
from: anonymous
-i listen to every thing in general, from prog to industrial to psychedelic,
-it felt very dramatic and funny at the same time, like in a movie lol,
-unfortunately i don't remember if it's been played on cd or record :(
-we chose it because it felt like it (it was a rainy day)
Song: Saint Matthew Passion
from: anonymous
-i listen to every thing in general, from prog to industrial to psychedelic,
-it felt very dramatic and funny at the same time, like in a movie lol,
-unfortunately i don't remember if it's been played on cd or record :(
-we chose it because it felt like it (it was a rainy day)
Artist: Blue 6
Song: Sweeter Love (Jay's Full Vocal Edit)
Album: Deep and Sexy: A Wave Music Compilation
From: Marcus
-your biographical info
Marcus (36), a Vancouver-based faerie and UBC Grad student
-how your musical choice affected your sexual encounter
I got in the habit of listening to Deep and Sexy when a fuck buddy came over. At one point I realized I was subconsciously timing sex to coincide with it, hoping we'd finish before it ran out. 'Sweeter Love' would usually coincide with the plateau before the final orgasmic crescendo.
-what type of technology you used to play your soundtrack
Initially it was a CD in my stereo. After downloading it to my Mac, I played it for sex the first time and the song had order changed. It was an odd and pleasant surprise.
-why you chose that particular work
My buddy Robb gifted me the CD for the specific purpose of sex music.
-any other thought or reflections
Can't wait to have a new sex soundtrack.
Song: Sweeter Love (Jay's Full Vocal Edit)
Album: Deep and Sexy: A Wave Music Compilation
From: Marcus
-your biographical info
Marcus (36), a Vancouver-based faerie and UBC Grad student
-how your musical choice affected your sexual encounter
I got in the habit of listening to Deep and Sexy when a fuck buddy came over. At one point I realized I was subconsciously timing sex to coincide with it, hoping we'd finish before it ran out. 'Sweeter Love' would usually coincide with the plateau before the final orgasmic crescendo.
-what type of technology you used to play your soundtrack
Initially it was a CD in my stereo. After downloading it to my Mac, I played it for sex the first time and the song had order changed. It was an odd and pleasant surprise.
-why you chose that particular work
My buddy Robb gifted me the CD for the specific purpose of sex music.
-any other thought or reflections
Can't wait to have a new sex soundtrack.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Artist: Profanatica
Song: Unto Us He Is Born
Album: Profanatias De Domonatia
From: INIR
-your biographical info:
gay male, 36, caucasian.
-how your musical choice affected your sexual encounter:
unexpected request during a one off.
had some great sex because i was able to play music i actually would have liked to have sex to in the first place. it obviously changed the dynamic of the encounter and likely made it more aggressive.
-what type of technology you used to play your soundtrack:
computer, mp3
-why you chose that particular work:
it was the loudest and most aggressive song i could find at the time it was requested.
-any other thoughts or reflections:
i usually listen to this type of music alone, so having it play during sex was very interesting. i would definately be interested in repeating the experience as i find it was very important to set the mood for the situation that was requested also.
the occasion being a one off also was situated in fetish/roleplay so i suspect i wouldn't have much of a chance playing during a 'romantic' engagement...but i think it would be interesting!
Song: Unto Us He Is Born
Album: Profanatias De Domonatia
From: INIR
-your biographical info:
gay male, 36, caucasian.
-how your musical choice affected your sexual encounter:
unexpected request during a one off.
had some great sex because i was able to play music i actually would have liked to have sex to in the first place. it obviously changed the dynamic of the encounter and likely made it more aggressive.
-what type of technology you used to play your soundtrack:
computer, mp3
-why you chose that particular work:
it was the loudest and most aggressive song i could find at the time it was requested.
-any other thoughts or reflections:
i usually listen to this type of music alone, so having it play during sex was very interesting. i would definately be interested in repeating the experience as i find it was very important to set the mood for the situation that was requested also.
the occasion being a one off also was situated in fetish/roleplay so i suspect i wouldn't have much of a chance playing during a 'romantic' engagement...but i think it would be interesting!
Monday, November 19, 2007
Artist: Nina Nastasia
Song: Too Much in Between
Album: Dogs
from: anonymous
1) bio: semi social male 1/2 of the time who cannot for the life of him make up his mind...
2) used within "proper" relationships and "one nighters" not so much as for aid but for atmosphere of the inevitable
3) actual cd's played on a proper stereo.
4) these albums are stellar in their own right. classics even. great for the intended "mood" of a given encounter and, therefore, your project. just great and honest music.
5) thoughts: i still keep f@#king it up!
Song: Too Much in Between
Album: Dogs
from: anonymous
1) bio: semi social male 1/2 of the time who cannot for the life of him make up his mind...
2) used within "proper" relationships and "one nighters" not so much as for aid but for atmosphere of the inevitable
3) actual cd's played on a proper stereo.
4) these albums are stellar in their own right. classics even. great for the intended "mood" of a given encounter and, therefore, your project. just great and honest music.
5) thoughts: i still keep f@#king it up!
Sunday, November 18, 2007
Artist: VNV Nation
Song: Solitary (Covenant's Deathstar Disco remix)
Album: Solitary EP
from: anonymous
I am a Montreal-based writer who has always been torn between the organic sounds of sex and the sound of sexy music. That is why I usually choose ambient techno with drippy, liquid blips and other human stuff.
In a recent sexual encounter with myself, in which I tried something brutal and experimental to test my physical limits, I had to play VNV Nation's Solitary (Deathstar Disco - Covenant). I chose that song because it is brooding and intense, a building layer of sound that I could bury myself under as the orgasm hit and I screamed into the pillow. The song pushed me through whatever fear I had, and helped me extract what I needed to out of the pain. It was an MP3 file, so the treble was sharp enough to nail itself into my brain and stick with me through the experience.
Thank you for letting me participate in this project. I never would have otherwise thought to share this with anybody.
Song: Solitary (Covenant's Deathstar Disco remix)
Album: Solitary EP
from: anonymous
I am a Montreal-based writer who has always been torn between the organic sounds of sex and the sound of sexy music. That is why I usually choose ambient techno with drippy, liquid blips and other human stuff.
In a recent sexual encounter with myself, in which I tried something brutal and experimental to test my physical limits, I had to play VNV Nation's Solitary (Deathstar Disco - Covenant). I chose that song because it is brooding and intense, a building layer of sound that I could bury myself under as the orgasm hit and I screamed into the pillow. The song pushed me through whatever fear I had, and helped me extract what I needed to out of the pain. It was an MP3 file, so the treble was sharp enough to nail itself into my brain and stick with me through the experience.
Thank you for letting me participate in this project. I never would have otherwise thought to share this with anybody.
Friday, November 16, 2007
Artist: Khan
Song: Jet Lounge Blues
Album: 1-900-Get-Khan
From: Mark Ambrose Harris
I think I started using music during sex less as a mood setting, but more so as a sort of sonic camouflage. I didn't want my boyfriend's roomates to hear us, so I would always insist on having music on. Though, looking back at the situation, I don't know if Bjork's Vespertine, or The Hidden Camera's Missassauga Goddamn were necessarily loud enough albums to serve such a "soundproofing" purpose.
More recently, in my own apartment, I would actually turn my stereo speakers towards my roomates' rooms whenever my partner and I were engaged in any sort of sexual activity. One album I started using was Khan's 1-900-Get-Khan. But besides just being music to drown out our own noise, I began to appreciate the sonic palate of the album as kind of sexy, sleazy, moody, and bodily. I've actually used this recording quite a bit. So now whenever my partner hears the album's opening track, Jet Lounge Blues, he knows what I have in mind.
Song: Jet Lounge Blues
Album: 1-900-Get-Khan
From: Mark Ambrose Harris
I think I started using music during sex less as a mood setting, but more so as a sort of sonic camouflage. I didn't want my boyfriend's roomates to hear us, so I would always insist on having music on. Though, looking back at the situation, I don't know if Bjork's Vespertine, or The Hidden Camera's Missassauga Goddamn were necessarily loud enough albums to serve such a "soundproofing" purpose.
More recently, in my own apartment, I would actually turn my stereo speakers towards my roomates' rooms whenever my partner and I were engaged in any sort of sexual activity. One album I started using was Khan's 1-900-Get-Khan. But besides just being music to drown out our own noise, I began to appreciate the sonic palate of the album as kind of sexy, sleazy, moody, and bodily. I've actually used this recording quite a bit. So now whenever my partner hears the album's opening track, Jet Lounge Blues, he knows what I have in mind.
Artist: Grace Jones
Song: Slave To The Rhythm
Album: Slave To The Rhythm
From: AM
i played slave to the rhythm by Grace Jones the night that a guy i liked(who later became my partner for 15 years) first came over to my place. we were sitting on the floor by the couch, and as it played i leaned back and swayed to the rhythm. he started kissing my neck and by the time my room-mate walked in half an hour later, we were rolling around on the floor.quite an ice-breaker.
Song: Slave To The Rhythm
Album: Slave To The Rhythm
From: AM
i played slave to the rhythm by Grace Jones the night that a guy i liked(who later became my partner for 15 years) first came over to my place. we were sitting on the floor by the couch, and as it played i leaned back and swayed to the rhythm. he started kissing my neck and by the time my room-mate walked in half an hour later, we were rolling around on the floor.quite an ice-breaker.
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